Parents❣️

Mother or Mother in law no matter for Love and Caring means you are little lucky. Definitely no one can treat their blood and the outsider in the same way, it's not possible i know. But even if treated friendly and nicely means it is good. We know marriage means two families become three, definitely right. But both the orgin families are treating the newly formed third one as like themselfs then the relationships becomes more powerful. 

Two culture, two grown up styles, different belifes, different cooking styles, different likes and dislikes and so on... But all those misunderstandings and little fights, complaints everything will vanish if a third person is involved. That is what a marriage relationships - i understood recently. When the boys side parents  and blood define the girl a better one infront of everyother third one then the girl is good, obidient, respectful and everyone needs to get a daughter in law like that, everyone prays for a wife likewise, everyone needs an in law like that, and so they will define him like the luckiest. How much the girl tries to be good infront of everyone will results in zero if the in laws who are defining her is in a bad way means. 

Same will happen with girls parents and family - How they are defining or introducing him to a third person is what he gets in form of respect, appreciation and admiration. How powerful he is, how nicely he is taking care of our girl,  like all these they are telling to the third person and so they are defining the girl  a luckiest one. So that they are also praying to get a good groom like him for their daughter, they will also pray for a happy life like this for their bloods. 

Similarlly we can see the love and care from each parents towards their in laws even during the time of misunderstandings and little fights. May be due to their ego they will not show directly, but it will be there for them that's why the girl will think "Even after all these they are asking about him and praying for his health, wealth everything because they are loving him. How much anger they are showing is not the exact feelings of them towards him". Similarlly when the boys parents will ask and suggest the homeremidies and diet and exercise for the girl the boy will think " After all these they are loving her too much, just because of their anger they are not talking directly. How much they are worried about her, i am getting scolded from them for not caring her properlly".

I just got surprised when my mother in law keep talking by video call for long one and half hours just because my husband is not there at the time when maintenance team came room for AC maintenance and the time is little night. Up to they completed their works and went, till that she waited even after that tired day for her without eating or going anywhere like how my parents will do. My parents his parents wordings will go wrong in this situation i am feeling they are our parents thats it. And she blamed him (my husband) for not giving proper instructions to maintenance team to come early for work as well.Similarlly i am remembering the day when my parents are doing fasting and prayers for him even when they are not talking each. When my parents  scolds me for not preparing good food for him during calls when he is not present will  hurts but i will feel better just because of seeing how much they are valuing him more than my comfort. Same when it came to in laws that when they are supporting me infront of him for little little cooking mistakes and the foolish things that i am doing will give some confidence and happyness.