Changing Characters #1

 Rermembering the day when someone told that for every person who is working outside,  everyone around him/her will use him/her to the maximum. Because they are not together so that the feelings, the pain and the worries of them is only for them not for anyone else. Since they are being isolated from the family they are also missing the family atmosphere and that love and care as well. If you are a person who got many rejections in name of love and care means definitely you will go in search of the same from outsiders (majority will do this, if that person having that much self control and a fearing mind of God may not). 

We will estimate every person those who are working outside country like they are gaining more and they are rich. Richness is not about working outside or not. It's mainly about one's ability to maintain and save accordingly. Everyone needs to know about the savings and spendings from their childhood. Otherwise they will grow with misunderstandings about the necessity and the desires. If food, water, cloth, shelter,..... is the necessity then, gadgets, electronics items, fancy dress, unnecessary vehicles all will come under desires. If the child is not grown properlly he/she can't distinguish between these both. In our society mostly we will see and tell if the elder one is outside and working for family then he/she can't get a good family life because the parents, brothers and sisters will try maximum to get maximum out of them. Even they will show all love towards them during their vocation because they know maximum ten days and its Ok. Each vocation when they are coming home, the family members treat them so great, will respect them, will be obidient towards them and showing like they are thinking more about the elder ones life and so searching for a perfect partner. The fact is that they can't find that perfect partner because how much late that much they can collect from the elder one in name of bloods aniverssary, their childrens first birthday, second birthday, school joining and so on. If the parents also are tactic ones means they will show a best performance infront of that person and will take maximum from him/her and give it to their children those who are with them. If the parents are that intelligent then they will not make the elder one to get the necessities fulfilled for himself/herself, because if it is done the perfect match will come fast and they know what they are enjoying now will be over. 

But everyone is not the same because i found someone who is working at the old age as well for their family and not giving much responsibilities to the one who is working outside. Parents only will work and did take card of their other children. Just telling him/her  to take care about his/her life only. But if that person is not grown properlly like what i defined first then it is his/her fault for not taking care of their spendings.

 But i can't understand one thing that why they took their husbands from their families within six months or three months for starting their own family lifes. Because of this definitely they can estimate every girls in the same manner. The funniest thing about the human is that when i am doing i am right, the in laws are wrong, if my daughter is aslo doing same then her in laws are also wrong but if daughter in law is good towards everyone then it means i am right and my daughters are also right that's why. My parents will tell "sound will come only when two hands clapped together and the same sound can't produce when one hand clapped with a wooden piece". No matter how good the girl is, she can handle everyone only upto some limits where she thinks she is having atleast one support from the family ( her husbands), if it is not there and the husband is dump about their parents and bloods love then how much she try is waste because he will listen to them only. The sad reality is the girl leaves her family for this single person trusting he will take care, fighting with her family to live with him, not listening to her family and decides to go further keeping trust on God, all will becomes foolish when her husband replies like if anything between my family and you then  "i want to consider both" is a neutral dialogue its ok fine what if he replied like " i want to listen to my parents then". Did she a fool trusting him and leaving her family for him??? Yes i think.