The Mistakes

What was my mistake??

I just thought about it today, no other reason is there. Toady also as usual no more works or a simple boring day like everyday. I understood, when someone is telling our mistakes, when someone is pointing out anything that we did wrong more importantly later someother day is not their mistake or they are not hurting (depends on person someone will take everything serious and someone not). 

Here the mistake is with us only, first of all i allowed them to tell and repeat the same towards me. I have given that freedom for the otherone to talk like that, I only created an image like i will not take anything serious. Secondly, i am not treating the other persons mistake like his/her own, when the other person is doing something bad/wrong i am telling "its ok everyone will make mistakes like this, we can handle it". The we i used here makes them feel like its the mistake of us not mine (It is a mistake that we did, not i did). 

 Why the other person is not understanding the situation. If i am repeting what they are doing to me means its bad. It's not my culture, it's not the way my parents brought me up. When you are cooking something and the salt/water/spice is more means i said "It tastes good only, little salt/water/spice is more that's it. No problem, we can handle. Eating along with th emain course/other item the taste will adjust themselfs".

 

When you are planning something and you missed something, the plan becomes drops for some reason means I said " its ok. Even i also didn't thought about it. It's not your fault. It's our fault, we didn't took that much care about it. No problem we can learn from this and can take more care while planning the next".

But for me why it is like "The dish is too much spicy/watery/salty, just spoiled - anyway we can eat. Why you didn't took care?". Or "You said you will plan better, i thought you will handle - that's why i didn't took that much care. Even little commonsense you can use".

Don't think the oppposite person is dump, can't understand anything. I am not pointing your mistakes, your incapabilities doesn't mean that i am not understanding it. I will care more about the otherones feelings that why i am behaving like i am not getting, i am not listening or i am not seeing. I am giving that freedom, positiveness and confidence to you for your happiness. It is not for creating and reverting back that situation and keep blame on me. No one is that stupid to not understand the other one's plan. I am feeling pitty on myself for giving you an oppertunity to make me wrong.